Millennials and their parents like to set the bar high.
Go to school, travel the world, land a dream job, meet the love of your life and save enough money to buy your first home. These are just a few of the expectations we set for ourselves by the time we’re 30 (or if you’re especially ambitious, 25).
The truth is, we’re setting ourselves up for failure. Unless you’re a trust fund baby, the chances of all of these pieces falling together within a single decade are not on your side.
Stop feeling unaccomplished because you haven’t checked visiting Southeast Asia off your “before-30” list. Instead, let’s break down the reality of the situation:
Going on a dream vacation, kick-starting your career and finding Mr. or Mrs. Right are all great goals, but they are far from synonymous.
If you choose to travel for a long period of time, chances are you’re not making any steps towards landing your ideal job. The same goes for building your career. Taking a few months off for a vacation doesn’t make much sense if you’re trying to earn a promotion or find a better job.
Not to mention finding ‘the one’. If your energy is being exhausted pounding the pavement, or you’re halfway across the world at a Full Moon party, dating can seem near impossible.
The voice of reason in my head suggests the best way to avoid the soul-crushing feeling of “not making it” is to simply streamline goals.
Find out what you want the most and make it your priority. It will be a lot easier to achieve if you have one goal in mind, rather than going in five different directions.
The challenge really comes when you have finally checked one of those goals off your list. All too often, people let their achievements be diminished by the pressure of reaching the next ‘thing’. When there’s such a long path ahead of you, it’s easy to forget how far you’ve come.
When you achieve something you have worked so hard for, it only makes sense to relish in the feeling of satisfaction and happiness (Isn’t that why you were doing it in the first place?).